Mom guilt – it’s a feeling that can creep up on the best of us. As moms, we put so much pressure on ourselves to do it all, be it all, and never fall short. But here’s the truth: perfection isn’t possible, and mom guilt is a part of the journey we can learn to navigate. Today, I’m sharing my honest take on dealing with mom guilt and some tips that have helped me along the way.
What is Mom Guilt?
Mom guilt is that nagging feeling that you’re not doing enough for your child, or worse, that you’re doing it all wrong. Whether it’s feeling bad about going back to work, spending time away from your baby, or even taking a moment for yourself, the guilt can be overwhelming.
The thing is, mom guilt often comes from unrealistic expectations we set for ourselves. Society’s portrayal of the “perfect mom” doesn’t help either. But let’s break this down – no one is perfect, and every mom’s journey is different.
My Struggles with Mom Guilt
I’ll admit it – I’ve dealt with my fair share of mom guilt. From wondering if I’m spending enough time with my daughter to questioning every decision I make, the guilt has shown up more times than I can count.
One moment that stands out is when I was juggling creating content about low-tox living while managing the demands of being a new mom. I remember one evening when I was too exhausted to make our usual clean, homemade dinner, and I ordered takeout. I felt so guilty afterward, thinking I had compromised the healthy standards I was trying to maintain. But over time, I realized that one less-than-perfect moment doesn’t define my journey as a mom.
How I Deal with Mom Guilt
Here are a few strategies that have helped me manage and overcome mom guilt:
Remind Yourself You’re Human
It’s okay to make mistakes and have bad days. Your love and presence matter more than perfection. When you show up with love and patience, that’s what your child remembers most.
Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations
Be honest with yourself about what’s doable and let go of the pressure to do everything perfectly. Prioritize what matters most and focus on those things.
Focus on Quality Over Quantity
It’s not about spending every waking moment with your child but about being present and engaged during the time you do spend together.
Practice Self-Care
Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish – it’s necessary. When you’re rested and recharged, you’re better able to care for your child. Even 10 minutes of quiet time or deep breathing can make a difference.
Affirmations to Combat Guilt
When mom guilt starts to creep in, I’ve found that positive affirmations can help shift my mindset. Try starting your day with affirmations like:
- “I am enough.”
- “I’m doing my best, and that’s okay.”
- “My love is more important than perfection.”
Seek Support
Talk to other moms, your partner, or even a therapist. Sharing your feelings can help you see that you’re not alone. I’ve had so many conversations where fellow moms have reminded me that they’re going through the exact same feelings.
Celebrate Your Wins
Take a moment to acknowledge what you’re doing right. It’s easy to focus on the negatives, but give yourself credit for all the things you’re doing well.
My Honest Take
Here’s the thing about mom guilt: it’s a sign that you care deeply about your child. But it doesn’t have to control your life. As moms, we’re all doing the best we can with what we have, and that’s enough. The more we let go of guilt and embrace the messy, beautiful reality of motherhood, the more we can enjoy the journey.
If you’re a working mom, remind yourself that you’re showing your child the importance of dedication and balance. If you’re home with your little one, you’re giving them the gift of your presence. There’s no one “right” way to be a mom.
You’re Not Alone in This
If you’re struggling with mom guilt, know that you’re not alone. We’re all in this together, learning and growing every step of the way. You’re doing an amazing job – don’t let guilt tell you otherwise.
I’d love to hear your experiences! Leave a comment below or DM me on Instagram @pravzpresents. Let’s support one another on this journey!






